Caregivers are people helping people, who often find
themselves confronted with extra expenses that affect their financial future.
By revealing the growing
magnitude and financial implications of this typically silent
population and dispelling common myths about caregivers in the workplace,
caregivers' insights and experiences are able to inform customer and employee
experience strategies.

On May 20, the ERG hosted an educational session titled,
“Critical Conversations.” This virtual event focused on approaching difficult
conversations with others, such as the need to consider assisted living; power
of attorney or other legal paperwork; and sorting out role and responsibilities
with other family members.
The session featured ERG members who shared
their personal experiences of what has worked well, what didn’t, and what
they might do differently today. The session included a Q&A segment and an
opportunity for others to share their personal stories, learn from one another
and make connections. Here are some lessons learned and recommendations
presenters offered in preparing for and conducting difficult conversations:
• Figure
out what’s most important to the person and try to connect that back to help
them realize how their actions may endanger what they want.
• No
situation is the same; trust your gut/little voice based on the person you care
for and others involved.
• Investigate
available resources (articles, care networks, agencies, AARP, other services)
and use those you are most comfortable with.
• Have
conversations in bite-size pieces. Read the person’s body language, and don’t
expect everything to be accomplished in a single conversation.
• Sometimes
talking about your own transitional plans helps. It can prompt them to start
thinking about theirs and how it fits (or should fit) with yours.
• Stress
that you want to be able to execute on their decisions, so things get done the
way they want them to happen.
• Identify
and align with others they trust; they can serve as influencers to help move
things in the direction you’re trying to go.
• Start
the conversation about “living” documents (Power of Attorney – Financial and/or
Medical) versus “death” documents (will).
• Pull
people in for difficult conversations before a situation gets to the tipping
point where a transition must be made.
• Plan
ahead. Don’t just blurt out the message without any planning.
• For
multiple caregivers, identify your roles ahead of time and consider using role-playing
principles to prepare for the conversation and try to anticipate objections.
• Flip
the perspective to the patient and set up the conversation from their point of
view and what’s important to them (retain control, independence, make
decisions, etc.)
• Sometimes
it’s better to have the experts (doctors) give the patient the information and
have the patient make the decisions about what they want to do.
The diverse and complex nature of caregiving means no two
situations are the same. Depending on the care need, the relationship between caregiver
and recipient, or even the stage of caregiving (acute, stable, or end-of-life),
there is no one-size-fits-all approach to many of the challenges facing
caregivers. But networks like the Caregivers ERG provides employees a platform
to share experience and knowledge, thereby informing each other, their
employer, and broader community.